Being a parent is hard and bringing up children can be utterly terrifying, not to mention really tough. Most parents want to do their best, and they try hard to ensure that their children grow into happy, healthy adults. But, no parent id totally perfect and there are some things that many parents (often unwittingly) do that can cause issues for children now and in later life. Here are some of them that you may want to avoid:
Getting Mean After a Breakup
If you break up with your partner when your kids are young, one of the worst things you can do to your kids is to let things get acrimonious. Not only does it upset your kids but it gives them the wrong impression that it is okay to get mean and nasty with partners when things don’t go right. What you should do is consult with Austin Kemp Solicitors about splitting up amicably, work out how to divorce/breakup like adults and remain at least civil whenever your kids are around. Leave it to the lawyers and don’t let your kids see you in an unflattering light at what is sure to be a difficult time for them anyway.
Not Admitting You’re Wrong
Many adults simply cannot admit when they’re wrong, not even to their own children and it can cause kids to lose respect in them. As a parent, what do you lose by admitting you’re wrong to your kids? Nothing. If you don’t admit it, however, not only could they lose respect for you, but they may become overly stubborn themselves, or they might have trouble trusting anything you say ever. Be honest, admit your mistakes and set a better example for your kids!
All us parents want to protect our kids, but we can’t shield them from every risk and if we want them to grow up to be capable, independent adults who can assess risks for themselves, nor should we. Obviously, we need to keep them from touching the hot stove or running out in front of cars, but we don’t need to stop them from climbing trees, playing in the mud or even going outside at all! Give them some freedom and they will actually be much safer because they will have been given the opportunity to make and learn from their mistakes.
Not Answering Their Questions
When your child asks you why the sky is blue or why we dream, it’s so easy to say you don’t know or to simply shrug the question off, but you probably shouldn’t do this because it does not encourage kids to think about things more deeply or get interested in science, for example. It teaches them that it is perfectly fine to be ignorant about things and that won’t exactly set them up for success. So, next time they ask one of those questions, try to answer it as best you can, or encourage them, with your help, to look it up online or at The Library and find an answer. This will help to craft a lifelong love of learning and the pursuit of knowledge that will see them well throughout their life.
Do your best, and although you might slip up from time to time, you certainly won’t fail as a parent.