Being a parent isn’t easy, let alone a successful one. Finding the right balance between work, play and your kids can be tough. What you need is a handbook. A list of rules to follow in order to be a successful dad that knows how to deal with their children being mischievous, but has enough mental strength at the end of the day to manage their career and find success in all aspects of life.
Don’t set rules that you can’t follow yourself
How many times have you set rules for your kids, only to break them yourself and then give some silly explanation as to why you’re an exception? Is it just because they’re kids, or is it because you’re an adult? It doesn’t matter what the exceptions are – you need to set an example for your children.
If you’re going to give them a grand talk about how they shouldn’t be breaking certain rules or how they can’t do certain things, then eventually, your children are going to be smart enough to point out that you’re being a hypocrite. If this is the case, then you’ll find it hard to create a logical explanation that your children are content with.
As a result, make sure you only set rules for your children that you can also follow. Don’t instill values that you can’t uphold yourself and teach them the value of sticking to those rules. Be consistent in your approach to teaching your kids about life and teach them simple principles that will take them far in their lives.
Spend more one-on-one time with your children
Spending more quality one-on-one time with your children is incredibly important. This is especially crucial if they’ve just had a tantrum and they’re in need of some attention from you.
Show your kids that you’re willing to listen to their problems. Let them know that you’re going to be there for them no matter what happens, and give them the support they need to make it through some of the most troublesome times in their life.
However, this also means that you should be spending some more enjoyable times with your kids and not just giving them attention when they’re down, feeling upset or having trouble with something. Take them out to the park now and then for some fun, play their favourite video games with them and read them bedtime stories. Don’t neglect the power of spending some quality time with your kids.
Don’t spoil yourself or your children
No matter how much money you make or how much disposable income you have, don’t throw it away at your kids and don’t overspend. Instead, make sure you save your money for future expenses such as their tuition fees for college and university, for a home that you can actually call a home and for other necessary expenses.
It’s fine to spoil your children when there’s a big event such as their birthday, Christmas or if they’ve achieved some good test results. However, you should never go overboard and you should always be conservative with your money in order to prepare for future expenses that are more important than just some toys and video games.
Being frugal with your money is a big component in becoming a successful dad, so make sure you practice frugal habits and hold yourself back from overspending on yourself and your children.
Don’t forget about your appearance
Your appearance can have a huge impact on the way you’re perceived by your children, but also in your own confidence. Whether it’s finding the right hairstyle for receding hairline or dressing in a way that empowers you, it’s extremely important to build confidence in yourself through your appearance.
Some children hate being seen with their parents because they’ll either feel embarrassed or because they’re going through a strange period in life. However, other children love being seen with their parents because they look up to them and because they’re role models. Aim to be that role model that your children love to be seen with, the type of person they don’t feel embarrassed around.
Give yourself some time alone to relax and unwind
Being a parent is stressful, so make sure you’re giving yourself some time to relax and unwind at the end of the long day. You have a hundred and one problems to deal with as a dad that wants to achieve both parenting success and career success, and finding the right balance can often mean pushing yourself to limits that you never thought you had.
However, the worst thing you can do is burn yourself out on both parenting and your career. There will be days that you’ll feel angry and frustrated and may accidentally take it out on your children. There will also be days when you can’t be bothered with your work and, as a result, your reputation and your progress takes a huge hit.
Make sure you focus on improving your own well-being. Think about yourself more often, be more selfish and develop ways to take care of yourself while still showing love to your children and passion for your career.
Remember that you aren’t alone in your quest for success
Let’s not forget that you’re not alone. Even if you’re a single parent father, you’ll have friends and family members willing to give you a hand. If you have a spouse, then remember to delegate tasks and spread the labour between the both of you.
It’s incredibly important that you don’t overwhelm yourself with tasks. It’s emotionally and physically taxing to focus on so many things at once, so make sure you’re doing your best to split the effort between you and your partner to ensure you aren’t burnt out from your responsibilities. Even if you just need a friend to babysit for a few hours or someone to help you with DIY work, there’s likely a helping hand out there.