As any Dad out there will tell you, it can be hard to find a balance between work, life and your family. If like me, your daily commute totals about 3 hours, then you’re out of the house for about 11 hours every day during the week. This creates a really hectic lifestyle, as it also means that your weekends are filled with housework, weekly shopping and everything else that you don’t have time to do during the week.
Because of this, the amount of time that you get to spend with your family can be really limited. That is something I hate about our current living situation, so I always try to make the most of the time I have with my wife and daughter.
Fun and Games
As I typically only have a couple of hours with my family when I get home, I tend to shovel my dinner down so that I can jump into playing games and having fun with them. This often consists of rolling on the floor with my daughter, playing with her various toys. However, we have recently gotten hold of the Roxi Electric Jukebox so that’s now become a major part of our evening entertainment. For example, just the other night we turned it on through our TV and played a mixed playlist of Indie Rock (my wife loves it) and I danced around the living room with my daughter. You should have seen the smile on her face.
Another way that we’ve started to try and spend more time together is going out for walks at the weekend. By being outside, not only do we get some healthy exercise but it also means I can’t get distracted by any housework since I’m not in the house. It does mean that there is more to do later, but that’s a small price to pay compared to spending a few hours with my family.
It’s All About Balance
The one thing that I’ve had trouble finding in life is a balance. A little while ago I wrote a post about my new commute and how it would affect our family time (here), but since then, I’ve managed to at least balance some aspects of life as a Dad.
I’ve found a shorter route to and from work which has cut a small amount of time off of my journey, which has helped. On top of that, my daughter is now spending two mornings per week at nursery, so housework can be done whilst she is there (or most of it, at least). This does fall on my wife’s shoulders, as the nursery is only open when I’m at work, but I do what is left whilst my daughter sleeps on the weekend. My daughter has also learned to sit at the dining table and eat on her own, which means that we can eat dinner together as a family now as well.
All of this helps to ensure that both my wife and I can spend as much time with my daughter as possible.
Finding Things To Do Together
Before I was a Dad, I wasn’t that good at comprise. I didn’t realise that at the time, but looking back on it now, it is pretty obvious. However, since my daughter was born I have turned a corner. I think most Dads do the same. But it is important that you do.
This is because your partner and your child will also need to be entertained. It’s not all about you. You need to learn to compromise on the time you have available – rather than just thinking about what you want to do, find something that you can all enjoy together. As a family who all love music, the Roxi Electric Jukebox is great for us, but it might be that playing tag in the garden is best for your family.
Whatever it is that works for all of you so that you can spend time together, do it. And be prepared to give up things as well. You may need to stop doing as much housework, or spending as much time on Facebook, but it will be worth it. Believe me!
And That’s All Folks
Finding and making time to spend with your family is really important, for both them and for you. It can be incredibly bonding and help to improve the relationships between you all. Find some things that you can do together that you will all find fun.
Do you have any advice on how to make time to spend with your family? Let me know in the comments below!